You, Me & Us: A relationship tarot spread

Brooke and Nadine’s matching tats, shared in this post on tarot tattoos.

Sometimes it’s fun to do tarot in pairs!

So here’s a spread for exploring the energy between two people in a relationship.

You could use this for lovers, friendships, colleagues, couples, or partnerships within a poly relationships – anywhere where you have two people relating to each other*! You could also use this for exploring your relationship with your body, with your work, with your home… anything you are ‘in relationship with’.)

* My personal code of ethics dictates that I wouldn’t do this reading ‘about’ another person if they hadn’t consented.

The aim here is firstly to see you and the other person (or entity) as two separate beings, with different stories, different needs and secondly to understand the relationship as an entity in itself, and thus also something with a story of its own. I love using the model of you-me-us with my partner, because it helps us to allocate time and resources and check we’re in balance and that things feel ‘fair’. This spread can help unravel codependence, weird power dynamics, and strange feelings of neediness – and it can also just be a really nice way to check in with a lover or friend.

The Relationship Tarot Spread

I’m sharing two different versions of this spread – a longer ten-card version, and then a shorter three/four card version.

The spread has three elements:

Me – as in, the querent, the person leading the reading

You – the second person (or entity)

Us – the relationship itself – which here is just as important than the two individuals.

Shuffle the cards together, making sure both of you get a good go at those cards and can handle and shuffle them for as long as you/they want.

Longer version

Lay the nine cards out in three columns, one row at a time. Start with yourself (‘me’) on the left, then the other person (‘you’) on the right, the the relationship itself in the centre.


1. Me – where I’m at 

  1. What I’m doing or bringing

  2. What I need from this relationship

4. You – where you’re at 

  1. What you are doing or bringing

  2. What you need from this relationship

7. Us – together, right now

  1. Where the relationship is heading

  2. What the relationship needs from both of us

10. A word of advice.

Short on time?

You can of course do a three or four-card version of this spread, laying out the cards as follows:


1. You

2. Me

3. Us

4. Advice (optional)

That’s it! Have fun 🙂

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  1. I just did this (short version) for advice on an ex friend who just contacted me and got the king of pentacles for the friend (who is like the opposite of all that), queen of cups for me and the devil for the advice. Helpful as I think about composing the email response to her strange message !

  2. karen says:

    4 card spread showed queen of pentacles him, ace of wands as me the l;overs card as us and the page of cups as the advice.

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