I watched this video this morning over my coffee and it made my heart sing.
Lately, I’ve been having this same conversation with a lot of my 30-something friends.
A conversation about ‘finding your thing’. About reining in your passions in order to find that one special thing that will be yours, about which you’ll be the expert, the one people come to for advice.
It’s also, often, a pretty fraught conversation. ‘I’m in my 30s and I still don’t know what my thing is…’ ‘I got a degree in XYZ but that’s not what I want to do.’ ‘I’m into so many things… I just don’t know which one is my calling.’
There’s this huge pressure to identify your thing, and set your stall out. To commit. All around us, people have chosen their field of expertise and begun to excel in it. The internet is filled with advice – especially if you’re a freelancer or starting your own business – encouraging you to focus. To find ‘the thing you’re good at’. To pick one thing and specialise, to be able to sum up what you do in a single sentence.
This, we’re told, is the only route to success. Stop spreading yourself too thin! You’ll confuse people! You’ll never be truly good at something if you keep trying everything.
So what if you’re into, y’know, lots of things?
What if you don’t want to specialise, or the concept feels like a trap?
Does that mean you can’t run a successful business, or have expertise worth sharing, or, y’know, generally be a successful, contented, happy person?
Of course not!
Take a look at this inspiring and brilliant 12-minute TED Talk by wonderful Emilie Wapnick of puttylike.com:
Why some of us don’t have one true calling
I love how Emilie pinpoints how powerfully society drives home this ‘find your one thing’ message… and the anxiety this causes among people who love doing… many things.
The problem wasn’t that I didn’t have any interests… it was that I had too many
And I love that she has created a word for herself and the billions of others like her: MULTIPOTENTIALITE.
Multi – potential – ite. Amazing.
Find out all about it by watching Emilie’s talk, then let out a joyful roar of pride, then run off and do about 25 different things all of which you love equally!
Or head over to puttylike.com and celebrate with your people 🙂
I’m a 30-something writer, artist, tarot reader, and perpetual explorer of the space between thought, feeling, and action.
I believe that spirituality and ritual are for everybody. I’m about the journey, in all of its messy, non-linear, chaotic iterations. I am excited by anticapitalist business and living with my whole entire self present. I use tarot cards to bring forth hidden truth, and ritual to affirm my commitment, over and over, to my ever-shifting path.